Creating Healing Communities and Enneagram Training

At the end of March I went to my Enneagram Certification Event in Las Vegas. This picture is the group of people who were a part of that event. They were from all walks of life: pastors, business people, teachers, counselors, etc. It was a different event than what I originally expected. Since most of us were there to learn how to do workshops and coaching through the Enneagram tool, I expected to see a lot of demonstrations on that. Instead, we spent a lot of time delving into our shared experience of the nine Enneagram types, which felt a little like therapy. Therapy is a good thing because therapy can lead to healing. Couldn’t we all benefit from healing?

Our facilitators did a great job creating this environment and it had a lot to do with their structure and personal questions, but it wasn’t just them. The people that were there to learn had a lot to do with it as well. Even though we were all different personality types (all 9 types present) on the Enneagram, everyone had a desire to tap into their experience of life in order to help others do the same. Even though we were all talking about some hurtful experiences that were deeply personal, there was a level of authenticity and vulnerability that created a safe space. In that safe space, people were able to see one another more clearly and that was refreshing for all of us.

As a pastor, I believe we have the challenge of helping our churches create similar communities and you can’t create healing communities without healing people. People who can help create safe spaces for others to come and be vulnerable and transparent about the fact that their experience with humanity has caused them some level of pain and fear. When we can work through that then we have an opportunity to flip that around and realize that we too have caused some pain as well. The great challenge of our American-Christian culture (or just American or just human) is that we have invested so much time and emotional energy into trying to appear as something that we are not, that we now need to give each other permission to reveal our true, flawed selves to one another. It takes a large amount of trust and courage in people to develop this kind of community with others.

The Enneagram is a tool that will show you all sides of yourself, even the sides you prefer to keep secret. When I tell people about how the Enneagram works, they always look excited . . . at first, but then the feeling of vulnerability kicks in and another look becomes apparent. It’s scary, but we are all starving for people and places where we can let down our guard and begin to process our difficult experience of humanity. The greatest challenge for you and your church in creating this type of community is to find that group of non-judgmental, healing people and task them with this ministry. Maybe it’s something they do as a team or maybe it’s something they do individually. Are you one of those people? The Enneagram is just a tool in the hands of people who desire to help themselves and others receive healing and become more authentically that which God has designed them to be. May we all find the courage and the trust to develop authentic community with one another. May that which has harmed us become that which has healed us.

Comments

  1. Wonderful revelation! The topic of your blog made me ask myself this question, “What would I look like if I were my true, authentic self?” The very first thing that came to mind was the image of a young, curious girl with long brown hair and a big, warm smile. Really? Where is that girl because I would like to spend a lot more time with her. Thank you, Jim, for uncovering what I truly believe all humans need: to reconnect with the child/person God created us to be.

    Blessings, Denise

  2. Thank you Jim. I’m anxious to see the ways you wil impact the church and community! Nothing but love for you and your work. Now… to find if I am 3 like I think I am or 1 that I have been told that I am. Ahh

  3. Hi Jim,
    It was an honor and pleasure to get to know you during the work shop. I was especially satisfied with our conversation about the recent LGBTQ Politics that are troubling the Church. Thanks you for your honest assessment of that.

    I’m glad that Enneagram is finding a home in your heart and ministry. I believe that it clears a lot of personality bias so that your walk with God is in a better light.
    Blessings and Happy Easter!

  4. Thank-you Jim! Beautifully written…. I especially love the closing line, “May that which has harmed us become that which has healed us.”
    What a privilege it was to share in community our wounds AND also together to share glimpses of our healing journeys.

    Deb

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